disgustinghuman:

shout out to those with complex relationships with their mothers
being bombarded today with messages about how everyone should/has to love their mom, that your mom should be your best friend, basically being forced into celebrating/acknowledging something you don’t feel comfortable about, and/or dealing with conflicting thoughts and emotions towards her. it’s perfectly okay, your feelings are valid, you’re not wrong for feeling distant from someone that hurts you even if they’re family.

localteenager:

I really hate when parents don’t respect their kids personal space or boundaries and then get offended or upset when you get mad or they act like its nothing because they’re your parents. They are your children not your fucking property.

1612th:

it makes me so uncomfortable when people swear at their parents like i would get straight up beaten if i told my mom to shut the fuck up

Why does this have 45 thousand notes and change?!?! Why is this a text post being circulated so widely without comment or addendum? THAT MEANS YOU HAVE ABUSIVE PARENTS. IF THEY WOULD BEAT YOU FOR SWEARING AT THEM, GENUINELY, NOT HYPERBOLE, NOT AN UNFOUNDED PARANOID WORRY ON YOUR PART, THAT MEANS THEY’RE ABUSIVE.

Don’t get me wrong, I’m not approving of or encouraging swearing at your parents; it’s incredibly rude, for one thing, and very rarely justified. The main time when I’d say it is justified is if one or both of your parents were verbally abusing you first. (I still wouldn’t encourage it, but I wouldn’t disapprove.) However this is not exactly in the top five reasons why adolescents swear at their parents.

More importantly, though, beating your kids for swearing at you is not okay. Beating your kids in general is not okay! (Spanking and beating are two very different things, as well, although I’m dubious about whether any form of corporal punishment should be considered acceptable.) But I find it especially abhorrent to think about parents beating their children for a purely verbal transgression that causes no physical injury or destruction. What is even the point? To put your children in their place?

Yes, it’s incredibly disrespectful to swear at your parents, but a parent who would respond to being cussed out by their offspring with a beating doesn’t deserve much respect. (But like I said, it’s still incredibly rude and unlikely to be justified. Swearing at a customer service worker paints you as a rude asshole, and they do a hell of a lot less to improve your life than the average parent does for their kids.)

drarna:

REALLY PISSES ME OFF WHEN YOU CATCH YOUR PARENTS GOSSIPING ABOUT YOU TO FAMILY MEMBERS LIKE TALK SHIT GET HIT BITCH

Teachers and schools tend to mistake good behavior for good character. What they prize is docility, suggestibility; the child who will do what he is told; or even better, the child who will do what is wanted without even having to be told. They value most in children what children least value in themselves. Small wonder that their effort to build character is such a failure; they don’t know it when they see it.

— John Holt, How Children Fail (via teachingtoday)

whoharassthenepeta:

psa to parents: if your kid is crying the number one thing that won’t make them stop is screaming in their faces for them to stop its guaranteed to make them cry more

heyitspj:

Fun Fact: Making fun of your child for “leaving their cave” only makes them want to retreat more. :)

reichenfeels:

• “We’re your family, we’re allowed to make fun of you”
• “Come on, it’s just a joke”
• “toughen up and stop being a baby”
• “We’re just teasing”

BULLYING IS BULLYING NO MATTER WHO IT COMES FROM.

IT JUST HURTS A FUCKLOAD A LOT MORE WHEN ITS COMING FROM PEOPLE YOU TRUST

FUCK OFF.